Explaining Brain Injury to Children: Tips for Parents and Carers

Children often sense when something is wrong—even if they can’t put it into words. When someone in the family has a brain injury, it’s important to talk with children in an honest but gentle way.

Why It’s Important to Talk About It

Not explaining the situation can leave kids feeling confused, scared, or even guilty. When they understand what’s happening, they’re more likely to feel secure and less anxious.

How to Explain Brain Injury to a Child

• Use simple, age-appropriate language.
  Say something like: “Daddy’s brain got hurt in an accident, and now he needs extra rest and help to feel better.”
• Be honest but reassuring.
  “Sometimes he might forget things or feel grumpy, but we’re helping him get better.”
• Let them ask questions.
  Answer calmly, even if you don’t have all the answers. It’s okay to say “I don’t know yet, but we’re figuring it out.”
• Use stories or pictures.
  Books, drawings, or toys can help younger children understand emotions and changes.

Helping Children Cope

• Maintain routines when possible.
  Predictability gives children a sense of safety.
• Encourage emotional expression.
  Let them draw, write, or talk about how they feel.
• Offer extra cuddles and reassurance.
  Even older children need to feel safe and loved.
• Be patient with behaviour.
  Children may act out or regress when overwhelmed.

Check out our Little Wings section for story-based tools, activity sheets, and emotional support resources just for children and young people.

You’re doing your best—and that matters more than getting it perfect.