How to Explain Brain Injury to Friends and Family
A brain injury isn’t always something others can see — and that can make it feel incredibly isolating. Friends and family may mean well, but they might not understand what you’re going through, especially when the symptoms are invisible.
Here are some ways to help bridge that gap.
1. Start Simple, Then Add Detail
You don’t need to explain everything all at once. Start with something clear and relatable:
“My brain injury affects how I process things — sometimes I need more time, quiet, or breaks.”
From there, you can expand on your individual symptoms.
2. Use Comparisons or Visuals
Sometimes it helps to offer metaphors:
- “It’s like my brain has less battery power now.”
- “Too much noise feels like every radio in the house is on at once.”
There are also visual tools and infographics you can print or share — we’ve included some in our Downloadable Resources.
3. Focus on What You Can and Can’t Do (Right Now)
People often assume you’re “back to normal” if you look okay. Gently clarify that recovery takes time, and your abilities may change from day to day.
“I might seem fine, but I still get very tired or overwhelmed. It’s not personal if I need space.”
4. Let Them Know What Helps
It’s okay to ask for support or specific adjustments:
- “If we’re chatting, I might need you to slow down a bit.”
- “I’d love to come, but I might need to leave early — I hope that’s okay.”
Clear communication helps reduce misunderstandings.
5. Share Trusted Resources
Sometimes it’s easier to let others read something instead of explaining it all yourself. That’s where Wings of Hope comes in. Feel free to share any of our blog posts, resource sheets, or links to help your loved ones understand what life after brain injury can be like.
6. Be Patient — With Them and Yourself
You might have to repeat things. You might feel like giving up on certain people. That’s okay. Not everyone will understand. But the ones who try — they’re worth the effort.
Final Thought
Explaining brain injury can be exhausting. You don’t owe anyone a perfect explanation — but having a few ways to open the conversation can ease the pressure and build better understanding over time.
You deserve to be heard. And you’re not alone.
🦋 Want help finding the right words? Our community forums and resource sheets offer tools for self-advocacy and gentle explanation.